1/30/15

what is non-violence:

Martin Luther King, Jr. speaks on the subject of non-violence. Dr. King, as Gandhi before him, had advocated non-violent protest -- but believed it was not enough merely to be non-violent. For King, there was a higher standard, and that was that you must love the person that harms you. In the following excerpt, King was speaking in 1961 to white liberals from the "Fellowship of the Concerned" at their annual meeting. He knew that many among them objected to student "sit-ins" and "freedom rides" and preferred a more gradual approach -- in part because of the savage beatings being inflicted on them -- and that his task was to persuade these veteran white liberals to see the student movement as a natural outgrowth of their own work and his own teachings: 
"Those who adhere to or follow this philosophy [of non-violence] must follow a consistent principle of non-injury. They must consistently refuse to inflict injury upon another. Sometimes you will read the literature of the student movement and see that, as they are getting ready for the sit-in or stand-in, they will read something like this, 'If you are hit do not hit back, if you are cursed do not curse back.' This is the whole idea, that the individual who is en­gaged in a nonviolent struggle must never inflict injury upon another. Now this has an external aspect and it has an internal one. From the external point of view it means that the individuals involved must avoid external physical violence. So they don't have guns, they don't retaliate with physical violence. If they are hit in the process, they avoid external physical violence at every point. But it also means that they avoid inter­nal violence of spirit. This is why the love ethic stands so high in the student movement. We have a great deal of talk about love and non-vio­lence in this whole thrust. 
When the students talk about love, certainly they are not talking about emotional bosh, they are not talking about merely a sentimental outpouring; they're talking something much deeper, and I always have to stop and try to define the meaning of love in this context. The Greek language comes to our aid in trying to deal with this. There are three words in the Greek language for love; one is the word eros. This is a beautiful type of love, it is an aesthetic love. Plato talks about it a great deal in his Dialogue, the yearning of the soul for the realm of the divine. It has come to us to be a sort of romantic love, and so in a sense we have read about it and experienced it. We've read about it in all the beauties of literature. I guess in a sense Edgar Allan Poe was talking about eros when he talked about his beautiful Annabelle Lee, with the love sur­rounded by the halo of eternity. In a sense Shakespeare was talking about eros when he said 'Love is not love which alters when it alteration finds, or bends with the remover to remove; O'no! It is an ever fixed mark that looks on tempests and is never shaken, it is the star to every wandering bark.' (You know, I remember that because I used to quote it to this little lady when we were courting; that's eros.) The Greek lan­guage talks about philia which was another level of love. It is an intimate affection between personal friends, it is a reciprocal love. On this level you love because you are loved. It is friendship.
Then the Greek language comes out with another word which is called the agape. Agape is more than romantic love, agape is more than friendship. Agape is understanding, creative, redemptive, good will to all men. It is an overflowing love which seeks nothing in return. Theo­logians would say that it is the love of God operating in the human heart. So that when one rises to love on this level, he loves men not be­cause he likes them, not because their ways appeal to him, but he loves every man because God loves him. And he rises to the point of loving the person who does an evil deed while hating the deed that the person does. I think this is what Jesus meant when he said 'love your enemies.' 
I'm very happy that he didn't say like your enemies, because it is pretty difficult to like some people. Like is sentimental, and it is pretty diffi­cult to like someone bombing your home; it is pretty difficult to like somebody threatening your children; it is difficult to like congressmen who spend all of their time trying to defeat civil rights. But Jesus says love them, and love is greater than like. Love is understanding, redemp­tive, creative, good will for all men. And it is this idea, it is this whole ethic of love which is the idea standing at the basis of the student movement."

1/29/15

who is prudence:

"While Mia Farrow inspired such men as Andre Previn, Frank Sinatra and Woody Allen, her sister Prudence left her mark on John Lennon. According to Nancy de Herrera's book, All You Need Is Love, Prudence met The Beatles on a spiritual retreat with the Maharishi in India, which she attended with Mia. When Prudence, suffering depression, confined herself to her room, Lennon wrote this hoping to cheer her up. It did."

1/28/15

On the Hearth of the Broken Home
Slowly fitting my pinkie tip down
into the feral eggshell fallen
from inside the chimney, I lift it up
close to my eye, the coracle dome
hung with ashes, rivered with flicks
of chint, robes of the unknown - only
a sojourner, in our home, where the heart,
after its long, good years,
was sparrow-netted to make its own
cage, jessed with its jesses, limed
with its radiant lime. And above the unclasped
tossed-off cloak of the swift, in the back
reaches of the Puritan oven, on a bed
of sprung traps, the mice in them
long gone to meltdown and to maggotmeal
and to wet dust, and dry dust,
there lies another topped shell -
next to it, its doffed skull,
tressed with spinneret sludge, speckled with
flue-mash flecks, or the morse of a species -
when I lift it up, its yolk drops out, hard
amber, light coming through it, fringed
in a tonsure of mold and soot. If I ever
prayed, as a child, for everlasting
union, these were its shoes: one dew-licked
kicked-off slipper of a being now flying, one
sunrise-milk-green boot of the dead,
which I wore, as I dreamed.
~ Sharon Olds

who is jane goodall:

pema pearls:

Peaceful In The Face Of Chaos
The peace that we’re looking for is not peace that crumbles as soon as there is difficulty or chaos. Whether we’re seeking inner peace or global peace or a combination of the two, the way to experience it is to build on the foundation of unconditional openness to all that arises. Peace isn’t an experience free of challenges, free of rough and smooth, it’s an experience that’s expansive enough to include all that arises without feeling threatened.
~ Pema Chodron

1/27/15

1/23/15

who are ari goldfield and rose taylor:

Ari Goldfield and Rose Taylor are Buddhist teachers, counselors, and co-directors of Wisdom Sun, a Buddhist community based in San Francisco. I love what they teach about habitual patterns and how to break free. 
A taste:
5 Ways to Get Free
Here are five techniques you can use to work with habitual patterns
as they arise in the moment. In the same way that detrimental
habits can become ingrained, they can be replaced with new behavioral
styles that feel more wakeful and sane. The key is not to expect
any quick fixes—please be patient and kind with yourself.
1. Expand Awareness Gain familiarity with your habitual patterns.
Notice how you feel when you act out of a habitual tendency.
Notice how particular areas of your body may feel uncomfortable.
The more you do this, the sooner you will be able to identify your
habitual behavior once it starts.
2. Make Space Simply breathing, relaxing your body, and moving
into another stance may be enough to shift from, or slow down, a
habitual reaction. So when you notice you are acting out of habit in
a relational situation (or otherwise), slow down and take some space. Pause to
breathe a few times. Feel how your body posture and sensations
reflect your reactions to the situation. You may want to delay
interaction by suggesting another time to talk, or by letting the
other person know you need some time to think and you will get
back to them.
3. Explore Choice When acting out of habit it can be hard even
to imagine there are alternative ways of doing things. So it is
important to spend some time exploring what other options there
are in the situation. Even if these choices seem outrageous or
unrealistic, allow yourself to be free and creative. You are not going
to act on any of these options yet, so have fun with it. If this step is
difficult, imagine how other people, or even characters from books
or movies, would act in the same situation.
4. Step into Choice From those options, choose how you want
to act. Do not expect a particular result; simply act from the conviction
that this is what feels right for you to do. When you first start
challenging your habitual patterns, you may feel awkward and
wrong-footed, but that lets you know you are in the right place.
Even if you choose what you would have habitually done in the first
place, it will feel different because you are acting voluntarily and
with awareness.
5. Re-Run If you find you have completely played out an interaction
from the stuck place of habitual tendency, do not get discouraged
or self-critical. It is significant that you noticed your pattern,
and you can still work with the situation by re-running it. When
did you become aware you were falling into the habit? What could
you have done differently? Imagine how that would feel to act in
that new way. Doing this will build the power of choice around this
habit for the next time it arises. 
Full article:

1/22/15

astrology + love = february renewal:

You are invited to join renowned Astrologer Carol Ferris to talk about astrological love on:
Saturday, 2/7/15
1:00 - 4:00
Carol will be teaching: 
~ Where and how a horoscope explains a person's loving experiences.
~ How astrology distinguishes between love and marriage.
~ How to better understand the part love plays in your personal chart.
$70
Appointment only:
To reserve ~ Laureredmond@mac.com
or
503-780-4964 (voice or text)

throw off the past, return to your truth:

"Agitated, anxious, irritated, insomniacal? 40,000 things happening in your mind, but not so much manifesting on the material plane? Moving extremely slowly but simultaneously at warp speed? Me too!
We’re stewing/sizzling in the co-incidence of two highly charged astro-events – yesterday’s New Moon (5:15 am PST) and today’s Mercury Station Retrograde (7:54 am), both in electric, visionary, brainiacal, futuristic Aquarius.
While the New Moon sparks a dynamic new cycle into motion, a quickening of energies, Mercury Retro (until February 11) calls for slowing down, turning inward, rethinking the future and resolving the past. The new beginning signaled by this Mercury-Retro-flavored New Moon might be more of a return, resolution or completion. The assignment is to purify, transmute, dismantle what’s blocking the flow of truth, freedom and expansion. Revisit and release the past so you can more easily create your dream for the future. Empty out so you can better know your own truth. Uranus, the modern ruler of Aquarius, is sitting precisely on the Aries South Node, our karmic past, what’s blocking our evolution. Uranus on the South Node signifies an accelerated clearing of old patterns, and can also feel like our brains (ruled by Aries) are on overload, with the potential for short-circuiting. Unplug from technology and take a break from mass media. Lean into the North Node in Libra – what supports you in feeling peaceful and balanced – and separate from the technology, media, people, etc. that unnecessarily fuel your stress and irritation.
Aries-ruled anger can be productive when it’s genuinely coming from within yourself – it’s the emotion that fires you up to take action and set boundaries, and moves you forward on your evolutionary path. But Uranus on the Aries South Node can indicate anger coming in from the “group mind” that gets you all riled-up about something that has nothing to do with you and about which you can do nothing, leaving you feeling powerless and depressed.
Mars, the ruler of Aries, is in Pisces and conjunct Neptune – poor boundaries and victimy behavior vis-à-vis technology and what you allow to seep into your brain is the lower potential here. The higher potential is to energize your dreams, ideals and higher vision by acting on what inspires you. Consciously engage the power of your imagination through music, art, meditation, prayer.
Mercury is Retrograde until February 11, but we’re “in the shadow” (under the influence) until March 4. Mercury Retro is part of our inner, behind-the-scenes preparation for the seventh and final exact alignment of the Uranus-Pluto square on March 16, followed by a Pisces Solar Eclipse coinciding with Spring Equinox on March 20 – this is when 2015 really kicks into high gear. In the meantime, we can best prepare for this mega-rebirth by throwing out everything that is no longer true to who we are now, and clarifying our highest vision for who we want to become and what we want to create."
~ Emily Trinkaus

1/19/15

"For King, there was a higher standard, and that was that you must love the person that harms you."

1/18/15

True compassion requires that we seek to understand others so that we can do unto them what they would like done, rather than treating them by the personal ideals we subscribe to ourselves.
~ Karen Armstrong

marcel proust speaks:

~ Let us be grateful to people who make us happy, they are the charming gardeners who make our souls blossom.
~ If a little dreaming is dangerous, the cure for it is not to dream less but to dream more, to dream all the time.
~ We are able to find everything in our memory, which is like a dispensary or chemical laboratory in which chance steers our hand sometimes to a soothing drug and sometimes to a dangerous poison.
~ We are healed from suffering only by experiencing it to the full.
~ The voyage of discovery is not in seeking new landscapes but in having new eyes.
~ Happiness is beneficial for the body, but it is grief that develops the powers of the mind.
~ Love is space and time measured by the heart.

i answer the proust questionnaire:

What do you regard as the lowest depth of misery?
living a dishonest life
Where would you like to live?
in peace
What is your idea of earthly happiness?
dogs, good food, silence, good conversations, love, sleep, Stretch Appeal, meditation, painting, spending time with my children
To what faults do you feel most indulgent?
mental looping
Who are your favorite heroes of fiction?
*Tereza and Sabina from The Unbearable Lightness of Being
Who are your favorite characters in history?
Rosa Parks, JFK, Picasso
Who are your favorite heroines in real life?
people who show up
Who are your favorite heroines of fiction?
Julia Roberts in Pretty Woman
Your favorite Painter?
my dad
Your favorite musician?
Joni Mitchell
The quality you most admire in a man?
loyalty
The quality you most admire in a woman?
honesty
Your favorite virtue?
listening
Your favorite occupation?
teaching
Who would you have liked to be?
my middle sister

*Tereza: Young wife of Tomáš. A gentle, intellectual photographer, she delves into dangerous and dissident photojournalism during the Soviet occupation of Prague. Tereza does not condemn Tomáš for his infidelities, instead characterizing herself as a weaker person. Tereza is mostly defined by her view of the body as disgusting and shameful, due to her mother's embrace of the body's grotesque functions. Throughout the book she fears simply being another body in Tomáš' array of women. Once Tomáš and Tereza move to the countryside, she devotes herself to raising cattle and reading. During this time she learns about her anima through an adoration of pet animals, reaching the conclusion that they were the last link to the paradise abandoned by Adam and Eve and becomes alienated from other people.
Sabina: Tomáš' mistress and closest friend. Sabina lives her life as an extreme example of lightness, taking profound satisfaction in the act of betrayal. She declares war on kitsch and struggles against the constraints imposed by her puritan ancestry and the Communist party. This struggle is shown through her paintings. She occasionally expresses excitement at humiliation, shown through the use of her grandfather's bowler hat, a symbol that is born during one sexual encounter with Tomáš, before it eventually changes meaning and becomes a relic of the past. Later in the novel she begins to correspond with Šimon while living under the roof of some older Americans who admire her artistic skill. She expresses her desire to be cremated and thrown to the winds after death—a last symbol of eternal lightness.

1/17/15

who is meredith monk:

"I was introduced to Buddhist practice in 1975 and I was struck by Trungpa Rinpoche's talks about principles that seemed aligned with what I'd found out as an artist. One of these principles is that time is fluid - it can be compressed or extended and it can be circular. Other principles are silence or stillness as a base and space as the underlying principle of what comes up.
I think performing is about as close as you can get to meditation practice in that you are present. For the really good performances, you're 100% present, and there's no division between you and your material. Your pinpoint focused but at the same time you're very open and loose in terms of what's coming in around you and the other people. There's a kind of power that's built into that focus but at the same time you're utterly vulnerable. You're throwing energy out to the audience in a kind of figure eight because they're throwing it back to you. It just goes around and around in an infinity sign. A live performance with both the performer and the audience being in the same space at the same time is a prototype for presence and openheartedness."
(this is how I feel every time I teach Stretch Appeal!)

1/14/15

what is forgiveness:

my 2015 word
"Forgiveness is a decision to let go of resentment and thoughts of revenge. The act that hurt or offended you might always remain a part of your life, but forgiveness can lessen its grip on you and help you focus on other, more positive parts of your life. Forgiveness can even lead to feelings of understanding, empathy and compassion for the one who hurt you.
Forgiveness doesn't mean that you deny the other person's responsibility for hurting you, and it doesn't minimize or justify the wrong. You can forgive the person without excusing the act. Forgiveness brings a kind of peace that helps you go on with life.
When you're hurt by someone you love and trust, you might become angry, sad or confused. If you dwell on hurtful events or situations, grudges filled with resentment, vengeance and hostility can take root. If you allow negative feelings to crowd out positive feelings, you might find yourself swallowed up by your own bitterness or sense of injustice.
Forgiveness is a commitment to a process of change.
As you let go of grudges, you'll no longer define your life by how you've been hurt. You might even find compassion and understanding.
Forgiveness can be challenging, especially if the person who's hurt you doesn't admit wrong or doesn't speak of his or her sorrow.
Getting another person to change his or her actions, behavior or words isn't the point of forgiveness. Think of forgiveness more about how it can change your life — by bringing you peace, happiness, and emotional and spiritual healing. Forgiveness can take away the power the other person continues to wield in your life."
~ The Mayo Clinic staff
To move freely you must be deeply rooted. 
~ Bella Lewitsky

1/9/15

1/8/15

happy 40th anniversary amnw!

I am so proud to be part of this wonderful TV station!
AM Northwest celebrates 40 years LIVE on the air today.
I have been part of this team for the last 15 years and have loved every second of it.
I am honored to be their Feel Good Friday girl.
yay ...

1/3/15

Solitude vs. Loneliness
"Loneliness is a negative state, marked by a sense of isolation. One feels that something is missing. It is possible to be with people and still feel lonely - perhaps the most bitter form of loneliness.
Solitude is the state of being alone without being lonely. It is a positive and constructive state of engagement with oneself. Solitude is desirable, a state of being alone where you provide yourself wonderful and sufficient company."
~ from Psychology Today
photo by: Toni Frissell

7 life lessons from paulo coelho:

1. When you want something, all the universe conspires in helping you to achieve it.
2. When we love, we always strive to become better than we are. When we strive to become better than we are, everything around us becomes better too.
3. We can never judge the lives of others, because each person knows only their own pain and renunciation. It’s one thing to feel that you are on the right path, but it’s another to think that yours is the only path.
4. Passion makes a person stop eating, sleeping, working, feeling at peace. A lot of people are frightened because, when it appears, it demolishes all the old things it finds in its path.
5. When we least expect it, life sends us a challenge to test our courage and willingness to change; at such a moment, there is no point in pretending that nothing has happened or in saying that we are not yet ready. The challenge will not wait. Life does not look back. A week is more than enough time for us to decide whether or not to accept our destiny.
6. Our true friends are those who are with us when the good things happen. They cheer us on and are pleased by our triumphs. False friends only appear at difficult times, with their sad, supportive faces, when, in fact, our suffering is serving to console them for their miserable lives.
7. How much I missed, simply because I was afraid of missing it.

1/2/15

who
are
you

1/1/15

how to make green lemonade:

keep all ingredients in the refrigerator so juice is cold after blending
fill blender more than half way with cold water
add:
- fresh chopped ginger (large clove or 2 medium)
- chopped apple (large)
- big handful of parsley
- 3 chopped celery stalks
- extra big handful of kale or spinach
blend
poor through sieve
easy, delicious way to get a major health infusion!
"You are what your deepest desire is. As your desire is, so is your intention. As your intention is, so is your will. As your will is, so is your deed. As your deed is, so is your destiny."
~ Vedic Upanishads text

good morning 2015:

12/31/14

Dear 2014,
You taught me more than any other year has ever taught me!
I thank:
my pain teachers 
my pleasure teachers
my mean teachers
my loving teachers
my whimsical teachers
my creative teachers
my stretch appeal
my meditation practice
my bobbie angel
me