5/22/13

"Sorrow prepares you for joy. It violently sweeps everything out of your house, so that new joy can find space to enter. It shakes the yellow leaves from the bough of your heart, so that fresh, green leaves can grow in their place. It pulls up the rotten roots, so that new roots hidden beneath have room to grow. Whatever sorrow shakes from your heart, far better things will take their place."
~ Rumi

5/21/13

Feeling gratitude and not expressing it is like wrapping a present and not giving it.
~ William Arthur Ward

who is steve tilden ~ thank you kat:

5/19/13

still feeling the impact of our soul renewal retreat yesterday!
what a special group ... thank you.

5/17/13

statue by Marc Samsom

5/15/13

who is mark bittman:

Love This Idea!
Six years ago, New York Times food columnist Mark Bittman got some distressing news from his doctor. His blood pressure was high, his cholesterol levels were through the roof and his blood sugar had spiked -- all precursors of diabetes and heart disease. His doctor's recommendation: Switch to a vegan diet.
Bittman didn't think that seemed like a viable option, so he came up with a compromise that he called "Vegan Before 6." The concept was pretty simple. Before 6 p.m., he would follow a strict vegan diet, going without any meat, animal products or highly processed foods. After 6, he'd eat whatever he wanted.
Four months later, he'd dropped 35 pounds and saw his blood sugar and cholesterol levels drop into normal range. He's followed the plan ever since and has kept the weight off.
Now he's written VB6, To Lose Weight and Restore Your Health ... For Good, which details his flexitarian approach to healthful eating, as well as the benefits of eating significantly less meat, if not eliminating it altogether.
Last month, I chatted with Bittman about the connection between diet and health, and why his approach might resonate with people who like the idea of eating a plant-based diet but aren't ready to give up some foods that they crave. The following has been edited for clarity and brevity.
You've put so much effort into spreading the word about the connection between diet and health, and yet that message has been slow to take hold. Are you frustrated by the seeming lack of progress that's being made to change the way Americans eat?
I'm frustrated by the lack of government support for what we know to be true, which is that we need to be eating a diet that contains more unprocessed plants and less junk and fewer animal products. I'm not frustrated that people aren't changing. I'm frustrated that the government continues to support the production of food that's bad for us.
What do you make of the push-back against food-reform efforts?
I think there will be some significant battles, whether it's a soda tax or the labeling of genetically modified food, so that more people will be encouraged that change can happen. For instance, every poll shows that the public wants GMOs to be labeled. I don't think it's critical to label GMOs, but I do think transparency is really important. So if GMOs are labeled, I'd also want to know how animals are raised, how many antibiotics are used in raising chickens and so on. The public is interested in knowing about the quality of their food and animal welfare, but you can't expect people to start talking about these issues when it's not clear that there's an emergency.
We have a tendency toward absolutism, particularly when it comes to food, yet your "VB6" approach gives people more flexibility in choosing how they want to eat. Why do you think that will have greater resonance with people looking to improve their health than every other diet that's out there?
We tend to see things in black-and-white terms, but you can't live your life that way. If I say to you, "You must weigh 170 pounds," and then you weigh 180 pounds, you feel like a failure, and the next thing you know is you weigh 210 pounds. There's a spectrum of how we eat. On one end is the worst diet imaginable, and on the other is the best. All of us are somewhere on this spectrum. The point is to move toward the better end, and if you move toward it by 10 percent a year or 60 percent a year, both of those are significant and good. It's better to feel like you're moving in the right direction than setting a destination and failing to meet it.
Have you received any criticism for not advocating a 100-percent plant-based way of eating?
The reaction I get from most people is "That sounds like I could do that," which is about as gratifying of a reaction as I could ask for. I have a friend at the Humane Society of the United States who is a vegan and another friend with PETA who is vegan, and they both think this is great. You have to recognize that if you're out there saying Americans must be vegan and we're not going to be satisfied until that's the case, you're not going to get very far. But if you're out there saying we need to eat more plants, we need to eat less junk, I think those are messages people are ready to hear.
What were the initial challenges you faced in adopting a new way of eating?
The beauty of "VB6" is it's delayed gratification. You're certainly not saying, "I'm never going to eat the stuff that I want again." In fact, you're only saying, "I'm not going to eat everything I want to eat until 6 o'clock tonight." The way to figure out the hours between now and then is to figure out what whole, unprocessed plant-based foods there are that you enjoy the most, and that's different for everyone. There were days during apple season when I'd eat a half dozen apples during the course of a day. That was a big change for me and a little weird, but it's not that weird, and it wasn't difficult if I felt like I was going to go home and cook, or go out to eat and have pretty much whatever I wanted. The problem is more logistical, because the gratification is delayed until the end of the day.
What was your impression of vegan eating before you embraced it?
Well, I haven't really embraced it -- I'm a part-time vegan. When I wrote "How to Cook Everything Vegetarian," which is close to 10 years old now, my goal was to familiarize myself with the world of vegetables, and I learned how to cook that stuff better, so when I decided to eat more plants, I already had the techniques nailed.
Has being a part-time vegan changed how you eat after 6 p.m.?
I think I eat more moderately at dinner. When I don't eat more moderately -- last night, for example -- I don't feel well and that reminds me that I want to eat more moderately at dinner.
Vegan doesn't necessarily mean healthy, and there are a lot of vegans who eat lots of processed junk food.
I often wind up chatting with people about meat substitutes. If you're eating soy powder mixed with pea powder mixed with a couple of other things, and then it's deep-fried and served with a goopy sauce, I'm not sure you're doing yourself any favors, and I'm not sure what direction you're moving in. You're substituting vegan junk food for mainstream junk food -- how is that an improvement in your diet? It's an improvement for the animals that aren't being killed -- I don't want to say there's not any difference. But it's not an improvement in your diet.
One of the key principles of "VB6" is not just to eat less meat, but to eat better meat. But that can be a stumbling block for consumers who are used to getting cheap meat. What do you say to someone who balks at the idea of buying a $15 pasture-raised chicken over the factory-farmed stuff?
I'd say eat a third as much of it, and your per-portion expenditure remains the same. By eating less meat, you can afford to eat better meat. But if that doesn't make sense to you, eat bad meat, but eat less of it.
Another key principle is cooking more at home. As busy as you are and as much as you travel, how do you manage this?
Everybody's got issues, and mine is I'm on the road a lot. But when I'm in New York, I cook dinner, and I usually cook breakfast and lunch, too. But everyone's got challenges. Some people are never home, some people don't have time to cook or like to cook. "VB6" offers strategies for having good vegetables around that you can eat all the time. One of them, for example, is cooking a pound of lentils or garbanzo beans or whatever beans you like, and just having them in the refrigerator. It's eight or 10 servings, and it keeps well. That lets you make salads, or you can warm it up with tomatoes and a bit of olive oil for an unbelievably fast and easy snack or dinner. The same is true for grains. If you pre-cook them they'll be there when you need them.
Your Garbanzo Bean Ratatouille is so wonderful and so easy. It's nice to know you don't have to be Eric Ripert to make good ratatouille.
It's a classic, easy dish, and the garbanzo beans give it more protein, but there's really no trick there. Olive oil tastes good and so do vegetables and herbs. It's going to taste good.
~ Grant Butler

pema chodron's (helpful) three step practice:

1. Come into the present. Flash on whats happening with you right now. Be fully aware of your body, its energetic quality. Be aware of your thoughts and emotions. 
2. Feel your heart, literally placing your hands on your chest if you find that helpful. This is a way of accepting yourself just as you are in that moment, a way of saying, This is my experience right now, and its okay. 
3. Go into the next moment without any agenda.

5/14/13

The first rule is to keep an untroubled spirit.  The second is to look things in the face and know them for what they are. 
~ Marcus Aurelius

5/13/13

coming and going:

There is a
recently discovered
order, neither
sponges nor fishes,
which is never
at the mercy
of conditions.
If currents shift,
these fleshy zeppelins
can reverse directions
from inside -
their guts are
so easily modified.
Coming versus going
is therefore
not the crisis
it is for people,
who have to scramble
to keep anything
from showing
when we see
what we can't see
coming, going.
~ Kay Ryan
(art by Bruce Tolman)

who is darren thompson:

Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around.
~ Leo Buscaglia

5/11/13

move
learn
listen

who is phyllis sues:

~ Loving Life at 90 ~
"To look good and feel good is work. To look great and feel great is a full-time job. There is no cheating! It's daily! Minute-by-minute, second-by-second. This is the process I love and love to work at. The reward is liking myself and living a creative life. I will turn 90 on April 4 and hope I can still create this in 10 years time. Life in itself is a challenge and you can either, accept it and take action, or you can sit and do nothing. My advice is there is only one winner: accept the challenge, take action and get on with your life no matter what age. I'm not aware of being 90. I'm aware of feeling physically as good as I have ever felt and mentally even better. I practice dance and workout every day. This body has to know who's boss and being 90 and feeling 20 is as good as it gets! People ask me all the time what's my secret. I tell them move, learn and listen.
The reward is a healthy body and mind. I'm totally selfish in that me and my body and mind are one. We are partners and we work play and live as one. So if that is so, we can't sit around and think about tomorrow. Our body and mind has to be trained from the first breath, otherwise it's down hill all the way. Numbers and dwelling on age is a trap. There is no age, it's living each moment to it's fullest. I started my own fashion label at 50, became a musician and learned Italian and French in my 70s, took tango and trapeze at 80 and walked into my first yoga class at 85. So, if you think you're old, think again!
What inspires me is the process of learning. Inspiration creates creativity and creativity creates a better life. I like experimenting and have no fear of trying something new, so flying high on a trapeze at 80 was never a question. Becoming a musician late in my life was not accidental. It was meant to be.
I love to move and exercise, so my work out regime consists of yoga, tango, jump rope, hiking with my poodle Nicko and playing tennis. Yoga gives you a life you didn't have yesterday. It's a wakeup call to every cell in your body. Every muscle sits up and pays attention. I live to do yoga and I do it to live.
Do every pose as good as you can and then do it a little better. I have arthritis in my spine, but I can do a full back bend, headstand and splits. Dance has always been my passion. I had my first ballet lesson at 14 and knew then dance would be my life. Four years later I was performing in a night club in Boston and soon after that I was performing on Broadway. Bloomer Girl, Oklahoma, Brigadoon, High Button Shoes and Kismet. I then went to Rio de Janeiro with the Ballet Russe De Monte Carlo. So from age 18, work was constant and life was and is really good. I'm still working creatively and love what I'm doing and have no intention of changing direction. I have realized, that anything is possible, if you like who you are and what you do. Yes, anything is possible and even probable.
If you don't train the body every day it withers. If you don't train the mind everyday, you lose it. That's why I learned Italian and French, as learning a language is a great mental exercise. I then challenged myself to write music. I wrote the music and lyrics for my first song "Free Fall," which was inspired by flying on the trapeze. A CD followed with 12 songs: Scenes Of Passion. And then six tangos for Tango Insomnia. I now write short songs daily about things I do. Tango dancing is a fantastic exercise, as it's physical and emotional. It's the only time, when I turn off my mind and just dance, so I am in the moment. To look effortless in dance is sheer beauty. That's my desire. I'm still performing, as it keeps my body in tune, is good for my memory and it makes my life a joy. A triple Boleo in the air would make my journey complete. Marcos (my teacher/dance partner) says it will take two years. I tell him, I have time!
I admit, I'm driven but I'm driven by desire and that's the formula. Desire is so powerful, like you are propelled as if from a canon. Desire to me is the driving force, but action is the result. Working and accomplishing something mental and physical makes my day worth living and suddenly there is a break through, another step on the ladder. I don't give up. The sun and moon are there for everyone. The journey is worth it! This trip has been good to me and I wouldn't trade it for all the stars in the universe.
There is a way to beat the clock. Stay fit and enjoy the journey. Accept the challenge and go for it!
That's what I did!"
(thanks barb :-))

5/10/13

"Do what you fear and fear disappears."
~ David Schwartz

5/9/13

The Journey
One day you finally knew
what you had to do, and began,
though the voices around you
kept shouting
their bad advice--
though the whole house
began to tremble
and you felt the old tug
at your ankles.
"Mend my life!"
each voice cried.
But you didn't stop.
You knew what you had to do,
though the wind pried
with its stiff fingers
at the very foundations,
though their melancholy
was terrible.
It was already late
enough, and a wild night,
and the road full of fallen
branches and stones.
But little by little,
as you left their voices behind,
the stars began to burn
through the sheets of clouds,
and there was a new voice
which you slowly
recognized as your own,
that kept you company
as you strode deeper and deeper
into the world,
determined to do
the only thing you could do--
determined to save
the only life you could save.
~ Mary Oliver
"People say their weight is genetic. But people who are overweight also have overweight pets. That's not genetic."
~ Mehmet Oz, M.D.
The mind that turns ever outward
Will have no end to craving.
Only the mind turned inward
Will find a still-point of peace.  
~ Tao

5/8/13

"My happiness grows in direct proportion to my acceptance and in inverse proportion to my expectations."
~ Michael J Fox

who is beverly johnson:

When a 21-year-old Beverly Johnson graced the August 1974 cover of Vogue, she was the first African American woman to do so. Now 60, the former supermodel is a businesswoman, occasional reality TV star (Beverly's Full House aired on the Oprah Winfrey Network last year), the mother of plus-size model Anansa Sims Patterson, 34, and grandmother of two.
The Surprise of Being 60
"I don't know why I thought that at 60 you're supposedly somewhere in a rocking chair, because my energy level's like my grandkids'. Three years ago I started a beauty-products business. It's my purpose for waking up in the morning."
The Value of Patience
"When you're in business, it's like building a house brick by brick. That was difficult for me to adjust to, because I'd lived a jet-set life. This has been a testament to patience and faith."
Cougar, Schmougar
"The intimate feelings you had when you were younger can still be had if you're interested in love. My partner, Brian Maillian, is about my age; that's unusual because I usually dated younger men. It's wonderful to have a companion at the same place in life as me."
Happiness to a Tee
"I'm a pretty serious golfer. It's the only game where you cannot think about anything else but what you're doing. There's nothing else in the world that demands that, not even sex! So it's a total escape."
A New Outlook
"It's very narcissistic to damage your body to look a certain way. But that's what I did [with anorexia and bulimia] in my late 20s. I've had a lot of therapy and been on a self-discovery journey. For me now, beauty is God, not manufactured beauty."
Home Sweet Home
"A happy home life is essential. No one can get away from stress, but Brian and I don't like to be around negative people who are always "Woe is me." Sometimes we go to YouTube and pull up the comedians. We laugh — and we go to bed laughing."
Lending a Hand
"I've been involved with awareness campaigns for years, including those for children with Down Syndrome. With the Global Down Syndrome Foundation we do a fashion show, teaching the kids how to carry themselves. It fills your heart. There's not a hair extension or a makeup artist that can make me feel the way I feel when I give back."
~ Reported by Alanna Nash

i recommend the book ~ salt sugar fat:

 

5/6/13

mindful may offerings:

I am looking so forward to an enriched, embodied Spring season here in Portland, Oregon! I am calling it "Mindful May" and want to invite you to join me on the journey:

~ Soul Radiance Retreat ~
Reconnect with your true, passionate spirit, awaken to your full potential, and renew yourself!
Saturday, May 18th, 2013
1:00 - 4:00 pm
$40
You will learn: 
• Self-inquiry and communication practices to help you listen deeply to yourself and others
• Exercises to discover your “soul-center” and connect deeply with the source of your creativity, wisdom, and spirituality — the ‘you’ beyond your thoughts and the roles you play
• Ways to amplify your inner glow with breath, meditation in motion, green lemonade and shifting your awareness to attune to your heart's deepest desires
limited space ~ reservation only
To reserve your spot:
503-786-8069
or Laureredmond@mac.com

~ Soft Stretch Appeal ~
This class focuses on increasing flexibility, relaxation & breath.
Saturday, May 4th, 11th, and 25th
12:30 - 1:30 pm
$15
limited space ~ reservation only
To reserve your spot:
503-786-8069
~ Active Stretch Appeal ~
As soothing as Yoga, as fun as dance, easier than Pilates.
Every Tuesday and Thursday
12:30 - 1:30
$15 for a single class/or class cards available
No reservation needed
BodyVox Dance Center
~ Private Self-Esteem Coaching ~
~ For more information ~ 
503-786-8069

5/5/13

a month of ...

Sunday Walks
Monday Shower Songs
Tuesday Blooms
Wednesday Patterns
Thursday Nights Out
Friday Swims
Saturday Flea Markets
Sunday Night Movies

some of my favorite words about love:

"Love asks us to see beyond the fear of our partner, to dive deeper than ego would want us to and to not leave, even when all that is triggering us wants us to run."
~ Mastin

"For one human being to love another: that is perhaps the most difficult of all our tasks, the ultimate, the last test and proof, the work for which all other work is but preparation."
~ Rilke

"The best thing to hold onto in life is each other."
~ Audrey Hepburn

5/4/13

today is a beautiful day
i woke up feeling so blessed for:
my health
my son tyler
my beloved dog bobbie
my sister chris
my surroundings
the dove couple & their baby who live on the trellis next to my office
my stretch appeal program
my life
soft stretch starts in 52 minutes ~ can't wait!

5/3/13

thank you dani!

Survival Skills
Here is the virtue
in not looking up:
you will be the one
who finds the overhang
out of the sun
and something for a cup.
You will rethink meat;
you will know you have 
to eat and will eat.
Despair and hope you keep
remote. You will not
think much about the boat
that sank or other boats.
When you can, you sleep.
You can go on nearly forever.
If you ever are delivered
you are not delivered.
You know now, you were
always a survivor.
~ Kay Ryan

5/2/13

who is richard diebenkorn:

What holds you back from living your full truth?

When I saw this beautiful image I was reminded of the idea of embodiment; something I think about all the time. When we are fully embodied there is a pure knowing of self and soul, body and mind. Our emotions, thoughts and body are impossible to separate. As an example, if you're living in fear, your body probably hurts a lot and you probably don't eat an optimally healthy diet. If you're living in anger, your body probably hurts a lot and you probably don't eat an optimally healthy diet. Being Active awakens the body. Being Still awakens the soul. Being Active and Still awakens the mind and stimulates the emotions you must pay attention to. It's okay to be fearful, angry or sad, you just need to know where to access support and information to hold your hand through these hard places. Getting to the other side is attainable, but not without honesty. So I ask you to ask yourself: "what is truly holding me back?"
(I am here to help you)

5/1/13

Life is Short
"Every act counts. Every thought and emotion counts too. This is all the path we have. This is where we apply the teachings. This is where we come to understand why we meditate. We are only going to be here for a short while. Even if we live to be 108, our life will be too short for witnessing all its wonders. The dharma is each act, each thought, each word we speak. Are we at least willing to catch ourselves spinning off and to do that without embarrassment? Do we at least aspire to not consider ourselves a problem, but simply a pretty typical human being who could at that moment give him - or herself a break and stop being so predictable? 
My experience is that this is how our thoughts begin to slow down. Magically, it seems that theres a lot more space to breathe, a lot more room to dance, and a lot more happiness."
~ as always, I thank you Pema for your amazing insights!

4/29/13

"The strongest oak of the forest is not the one that is protected from the storm and hidden from the sun. It's the one that stands in the open where it is compelled to struggle for its existence against the winds and rains and the scorching sun.
~ Napoleon Hill
You, yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and attention.
~ Gautama Buddha

what exactly is the tapping solution:

I highly recommend the Tapping Solution & here's why:

4/27/13

4/26/13

Learn to wish that everything should come to pass exactly as it does.
- Epictetus