"THE LIE: TIME HEALS ALL WOUNDS The truth is there are losses you never get over. They break you to pieces and you can never go back to the original shape you once were, and so you will grieve your own death with that of your beloved lost. Your grief is your love, turned inside-out. That is why it is so deep. That is why it is so consuming. When your sadness seems bottomless, it is because your love knows no bounds. Grief teaches us about who we are, and any attempt to crush it, to bury it with the body is an act of vengeance against your own nature.
If instead of pretending we are okay, we would take the time to wail, to weep, to scream, to wander the woods day after day holding hands with our sadness, loving it into remission so it doesn’t turn cold inside of us, gripping us intermittently in the icy fingers of depression. Grief has a way of showing you just how deep your aliveness goes. If you have been sitting on old grief from your childhood, your failed relationships, the loss of a family pet and any other losses you were unable to fully honor in the past, this left-over grief will also come through the broken damn. Let it."
~ Alison Nappi