11/23/12

self-esteem diaries:

Q: Should I consider liposuction for my abdominal area if I can’t seem to get my stomach flat?
A: I’m a big opponent of plastic surgery for non-obese fat reduction. Of course if you have a serious problem that is endangering your health and your doctor recommends surgery as the only option, that’s another story. However if it’s just for the sake of vanity, forget it! As far as we’ve come in medical advances, surgery is still an invasion of the body, with all the attendant risks of complications and infection. It’s a rare case that’s worth the risks, hassles, or money. Often plastic surgery is merely a band-aid, masking the real problem of self- dissatisfaction. It’s another shortcut attempt to find inner happiness through outer means.
One of my favorite women is a fifty-one-year-old named Sherrie. Sherrie is bright, bubbly and genuinely happy. She has mothered three children and carries herself proudly and assuredly. Sherrie listens to her body; she eats what she craves, hikes on weekends, and plays actively with her children. People are always amazed when she openly tells them what she weighs, since it is so much more than what you would guess, based on the way she stands, walks and holds her body. Recently when I ran into Sherrie, she shared with me that one of our mutual friends had just "gone under the knife", having a face and eye lift, as well as a Tummy Tuck. We both agreed that this woman did not need any of these invasive procedures. Together we pondered and discussed why we presumed she had elective surgery, agreeing that our friend’s issues were more psychological than physical. As we said our good-byes, I watched Sherrie walk away with her trademark confidence, wishing I could bottle some of it for our friend.
Forget the liposuction. There are no shortcuts to loving your body—and yourself—naked.